I am very single. The only dates I get taken on are the first dates my friends and I are trialling.
First dates can be very scary but never fear, I am here! And have tried to find the perfect first date for you and your sexy partner.
Recently, my best male friend wanted to start trialling his first date ideas with me, to investigate a girl’s perspective on his date suggestions and to see if his ideas would make a successful first date. Besides the fact these adventures don’t actually involve free meals, or a get out of driving free cards, like most first dates usually include, it was actually quite fun.
Both of us have fun on every ‘date’ because we are friends and just enjoy each other’s company but to properly find out if our first date proposals would be a good idea, we decided to create a rating scale that deeply analyses each date. After each ‘date’ we could label it with a rating out of 10 and either in the category of a “friendship date”, “first date”, or “progressive date” (meaning a successful date idea but not the first, maybe a second or third).
The first date we ventured on was to Springbrook waterfalls. It’s an hour and a half drive south from Brisbane, to these beautiful waterfalls, inland from Burleigh Heads. It was both our first time going to Springbrook falls, so we didn’t know the exact location to start the hike and we also didn’t prepare ourselves for it to be a 4km hike to the waterfalls (I was so unprepared I wore Birkenstocks for the hike…) However, once we were at the falls, they were beautiful and so irresistibly pulchritude that we just had to go for a swim. After the exhausting 1 hour, 30 min drive there, the 4km walk in Birkenstocks to the waterfall, the swim, walk back up the steep trail and 1 hour, 30 min drive home, I gave this a friendship date on the first date scale and a 5/10 as it was too complicated, and we were both quite tired and grumpy by the end. Not portraying our best selves that a first date should see.
The second date we travelled to was, an Animal Rescue farm. It wasn’t a far drive, the tour only went for an hour, so you could get food after (food is always on my mind, so I always take eating times into consideration) and it wasn’t too expensive. We rated this idea as an ideal first date and a rating of 9/10 as you get to walk and spend time with each other but if conversation ever gets awkward in any way, you can just talk about the animals and discuss how as a child you honestly thought pigs could talk after watching the film Charlottes Webb (or maybe that was just me…).
Our third idea was to try rock climbing as a first date. This date idea was a bit more of a personal preference as it depends on you and your date both liking heights and climbing. This date idea challenges your trust for one another as one person is the belayer that supports the other as they climb. Too literally, your life is in their hands, but it is a very easy job (if that gives you any reassurance.) We rated this as a progressive date and a 7/10 because it would be a super fun to do with someone you like just a bit extreme for a first date. And hey, the best part as the belayer is that from the bottom of the rock-climbing wall, you always have to look at the climber’s bottom ;)
We also trialled a picnic in the park with brought lunch, tunes and a frisbee. And it really was the perfect first date. You can bring food of your choice, it’s affordable, you get to know them as you talk over food, you get to sus out what type of music you both like and when you play with the frisbee (which kind of sounds lame but honestly bring back the frisbee, it was fun) if there is no more conversation, or the date wasn’t going very successfully, you can just move further and further away from the person and you can’t hear them as you throw the frisbee epically from 100m away. We rated this date a 10/10 and as the perfect first date.
It is kind of ironic taking dating advice from someone who has hardly ever been on a first date BUT, if you’re as single as I am, maybe take a friend on one of these trial first dates and see if you agree with my rating. Or if you’re game enough, ask someone you like on one of these first dates, and I personally wish you lots of luck on that scary adventure and will be hitting you up for advice on how I can get game like you.
We hope to continue to trial our first date ideas on each other, as we still have plenty more lined up, so there may be another blog to follow… Until then,
That’s my ramble.
Ruby x
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