You are never too young to experience heartbreak. I feel like girls are told when they’re teenagers that, “it doesn’t matter, there are plenty more fish in the sea” or “high school love isn’t real love anyway”, yet this does not make the heartbreak any easier. At a time when teenagers are experiencing all their firsts (first bit of independence, first kiss, first drink of alcohol etc.), it is who these memories are made with that really stick with us, and if that is your first love, then are these memories ruined forever?
Teenage boys are stupid, that is correct. And it is literally scientifically proven that as early as 10 years old, girls’ brains begin to mature, but for boys it can take until they are between 15 and 20 years old for their brain to develop.
Everyone’s first heartbreak happens differently. The levels of severity are different, the reasons for each heartbreak is different, yet I also believe there to be two certain facts about majority breakups, no matter how differently they occurred. Going through my own first heartbreak right now, I can only share my personal experiences and my broad range of 17-year-old knowledge. So, let’s get started.
No. 1. I believe the truth is, it doesn’t matter if you’re the dumper or dumpee…. it sucks and hurts. The decision to breakup with someone is never an easy one to make. No one wants to hurt the feelings of someone they love or have loved. However, this leads to my second point.
No. 2. In the famous words of The Script, and as brutal as it is, the pain of a breakup won’t breakeven. One person in the relationship is always a little more prepared for the breakup than the other. Whether you had no warning signs about the breakup, or are lying to yourself and saying, “the decision was mutual”, one person in the relationship has to deal with the shock and grief of the breakup, whilst the other only deals with the grief.
I only state these factors of a breakup to not make you girls feel alone. These emotions you may feel post breakup are normal, and you’re worth so much more than you feel. I know you have probably heard so many people say it before, but it will get better! This leads to my tips and tricks to get over that immature teenage boy.
Honestly, as cheesy as it sounds, I truly believe in the saying “if you love him, let him go” whether it was your decision to let him go or not. Boys need letting go of so they can grow up and mature. But in saying this, you shouldn’t let his immature and hurtful behaviour ruin your memories and nice times you had together. Whether they are memories of your firsts or even just fun memories, they were real, they were true, and you were once in love. But now that love is over, please don’t believe you will never be in love again! Because you will! And probably with someone who deserves your love more than the last boy did.
To lighten the mood, my favorite quotes said to me and my friends during our teenage breakups:
“he was ugly anyway”
“he gave off skinny dick energy”
“he looked like he would be bad at sex though”
“are we sure he isn’t gay?”
“he owned a Velcro wallet…. enough said”
“oh, it’s only young love, don’t worry”= the most frustrating thing to be said, because your feelings are valid, and if anything it hurts more as it is a new feeling in which we are unsure on how to deal with.
That's my ramble.
Ruby x
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